Online therapy in california
Therapy for gay men
helping you navigate your life with confidence
It might be that you once felt a sense of security and confidence, but you now notice yourself feeling overwhelmed by body image issues, app culture, and self-esteem. Maybe you find yourself constantly going out to parties to be among your friends and other gay men, yet you feel more isolated and lonelier than ever. You are craving meaningful connections but feel like you are stuck in a cycle of superficial interactions that leave you feeling empty. The apps drive you crazy—like … CRAZY! What was once an exciting way for meeting new people has become a source of frustration, filled with endless swiping and disappointing encounters. The thrill of hookups has faded—you question your self-worth and long for deeper, more authentic relationships. You may even be religious about hitting the gym, but you still aren’t happy with what you see in the mirror.
Are you struggling to maintain your confidence amidst body image issues, gay shame, and the pressures of app culture?
you’re noticing that …
+ Your self-esteem is in the gutter.
+ You feel lonely and isolated which is affecting your personal relationships.
+ Meaningful connections seem impossible to cultivate.
+ You feel disconnected from the people you love the most.
+ Depression and anxiety are a daily struggle.
+ You find yourself self-medicating with drugs and/or alcohol.
+ The online comparison game is making you crazy.
As gay man who has lived in Los Angeles for over twenty years, I have firsthand experience with the challenges of cultivating and maintaining a genuine sense of self amid body image issues, homophobia, gay shame, and the hyper-sexualized competitive nature of the gay community. In a world that often equates value with looks, status, and desirability, it’s easy to internalize messages that make you feel inadequate. Whether it's feeling invisible because your body doesn't fit the mold or questioning your worth based on how others perceive your identity, it can be exhausting.
I deeply understand that within gay culture, physical appearance and sexual currency can often feel like the primary measures of acceptance, creating immense pressure to conform to certain ideals. When we don’t meet these unrealistic standards, it can lead to feelings of failure. Together, we will explore what makes you feel centered, authentic, and grounded. I am passionate about helping you dismantle the beliefs imposed by society and the gay community, fostering a judgment-free space where you feel safe discussing anything relevant to your growth.
The truth is your worth isn’t contingent on external validation; it is intrinsic.
regain your confidence and self-worth by:
+ Learning how to take care of yourself emotionally.
+ Reducing your use of drugs and/or alcohol.
+ Accessing self-love in a meaningful, action-oriented way.
+ Getting to know yourself better.
+ Reducing your anxiety and depression.
+ Reducing your negative self-talk.
I will guide you through this process by addressing your unique needs.
My intention is that therapy will ultimately lead you to feeling comfortable in your own skin.
frequently asked questions
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Therapy duration varies based on individual needs and goals. I recommend a commitment to weekly sessions. Regular, weekly appointments are crucial for establishing consistency, which allows us to build a strong therapeutic rapport and foster a deeper understanding of the challenges you face. This frequency not only helps us track your progress effectively but also provides ongoing support as you implement strategies for growth. Your dedication to this process will facilitate meaningful transformation.
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To begin, we will schedule an initial session where you can share your unique challenges with me. During this meeting, you’ll have the opportunity to discuss what you hope to gain from therapy. Together, we will create a personalized plan tailored to your needs. I recommend committing to regular weekly sessions so that we can build a strong rapport and maintain consistency, ensuring that you feel supported as you navigate the complexities of your life.
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Yes, I have substantial experience working with consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and open relationships, both personally and clinically. I understand the unique dynamics and challenges that can arise in these types of arrangements, such as communication, establishing boundaries, and navigating jealousy. My approach is supportive and non-judgmental, focusing on helping you and your partner(s) develop the tools needed for healthy, fulfilling relationships. Together, we will explore your individual desires and agreements, ensuring that your needs are met while fostering a strong foundation of trust and understanding. Whether you're new to CNM or looking to enhance your existing relationships, I am here to provide guidance and support throughout your journey.
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It’s completely normal to feel like you have nothing to discuss in a therapy session from time to time. Therapy is a process, and sometimes you may not have specific topics in mind. If this happens, I encourage you to share that feeling with me. I have found in my experience that these sessions sometimes can produce the deepest, and most meaningful insights. Remember, therapy is a collaborative journey, and there's no pressure to have everything figured out before you arrive. Your openness and willingness to engage in the process are what truly matter.
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I consider myself to be direct, bold, and challenging—qualities that foster real growth and transformation. I embrace difficult conversations and encourage you to confront issues head-on, as this is often where the most meaningful insights arise. My approach creates a judgment-free environment where you can express yourself openly and honestly. I will provide you with valuable input and guidance to help you navigate your challenges and discover your authentic self. I’m committed to helping you reduce negative beliefs and empowering you to take actionable steps toward change. This blend of support and directness creates a dynamic that allows you to move forward with confidence and clarity.
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Yes, I have experience working with clients who have been diagnosed with HIV, and I understand the unique emotional and psychological challenges they may face. My approach is compassionate and affirming, and I prioritize creating a safe space where clients can express their feelings, fears, and concerns without judgment.
I support their needs by addressing a range of topics, including coping with anxiety related to their diagnosis, dealing with stigma, and navigating relationships and intimacy. We work to develop positive coping strategies, foster resilience, and enhance self-acceptance.