online therapy in california
therapy for couples
find your flow again
How do you get back to the flow you once had with each other?
Maybe you feel lost in how to reconnect and rebuild the intimacy you once shared. It might be that you both have been so focused on your careers leaving you feeling disconnected and distant from one another. You find yourself constantly bickering over the dishes or the laundry--further adding to the frustration and strain in your relationship. As much as you want to communicate effectively and nurture your connection, you feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to move forward. The excitement in your relationship has been eclipsed by miscommunication and unresolved conflicts. You face unique challenges that not only impact your relationship but also your overall well-being, and you feel like no one truly understands what it’s like to go through all of this.
things can change.
In therapy we can explore the underlying issues contributing to these conflicts and develop effective strategies for reconnecting and communicating with one another in a meaningful way.
You’re noticing the impact of this on you because:
+ You struggle to be seen and heard by your partner.
+ The ability to be vulnerable with your partner has diminished.
+ Stress, anxiety, and frustration is mounting.
+ Resentment toward your partner seems to be building.
+ There is a lack of trust with your partner that you are unsure how to rebuild.
+ Your sex life is … not happening.
rediscover that sense of partnership and intimacy you both deserve.
As humans, we are wired for connection. Navigating a healthy and fulfilling long-term relationship can be challenging, requiring all parties to be open to emotional growth. I value and support a diversity of relational styles, including monogamous, ethically non-monogamous. Together, we can work to develop the communication skills that best suit you and your partner. At the heart of a thriving relationship is direct, honest, and kind communication.
Our world encompasses a vast range of gender identities and sexual orientations—including queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, and straight—we can explore the unique issues you need to address for a more well-rounded partnership. I will help you identify and implement the necessary tools to foster open and connected dialogue in your relationship. These skills will empower you to thoughtfully engage with important topics such as sex, ethical non-monogamy, finances, children, and careers, among others.
It may feel unattainable, but you can get back to a healthy rhythm with your partner.
MY approach
My approach is both directive and empowering, providing you with the guidance needed to get on the same page with your partner. I will help you identify and articulate your individual needs and desires while fostering a collaborative environment where both voices are heard. With therapy we will develop actionable strategies that promote understanding and empathy between you.
My goal is to encourage and challenge each partner to express themselves fully while also facilitating discussions that bridge any gaps in perspective. By establishing a clear roadmap for your conversations, we can create a healthier dynamic in which both of you feel valued and understood, ultimately strengthening your connection and partnership.
Couples therapy will help you:
+ Transform conflict into a reparative experience.
+ Deepen your intimacy with your partner.
+ Feel seen and heard by your partner.
+ Gain tools to clearly communicate wants, needs, desires etc.
+ Create strong, healthy boundaries.
+ Enhance communication skills.
Let’s get you back to having a loving, connected, and fulfilling dynamic.
frequently asked questions
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YES -- I have extensive experience working with couples who are exploring or already engaged in consensual non-monogamy within their long-term relationships. I understand that non-monogamous arrangements can bring both exciting opportunities and unique challenges, such as managing jealousy, establishing boundaries, and ensuring open communication. My approach is both supportive and directive, guiding couples to cultivate healthy dialogues about their desires and expectations. Together, we will work to identify and address any concerns, enhance your communication skills, and create a framework that respects each partner's needs. Whether you are newly exploring non-monogamy or seeking to refine your existing agreements, I am here to help you navigate this journey with understanding and care, fostering a deeper sense of connection and trust within your relationship.
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Absolutely! In fact, I highly recommend it. Therapy is not just a resource for times of crisis; it can also be incredibly beneficial for couples looking to deepen their connection and enhance their relationship. Engaging in therapy proactively allows you to address potential issues before they escalate, improve communication skills, and develop a stronger foundation of trust and understanding. It provides a safe space to explore your relationship dynamics, set shared goals, and navigate everyday challenges with greater ease. Whether you want to improve intimacy, work on conflict resolution, or simply strengthen your partnership, therapy can equip you with the tools necessary to foster a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship. Taking this step can lead to lasting growth and a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.
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In my experience, it's rarely as simple as determining that one partner is the "problem" while the other is "right." Relationships are complex dynamics where both individuals contribute to the overall interaction. I often encourage couples to focus on how each person can show up differently to foster a new outcome. This involves examining personal behaviors, communication styles, and emotional responses that may be impacting the relationship. By shifting the perspective from blame to collaboration, we can identify individual patterns that may be contributing to the issues at hand. My goal is to facilitate a safe space where both partners can express their feelings and concerns, allowing us to explore ways to enhance understanding and connection. Together, we’ll work on empowering each partner to take responsibility for their role in the relationship, ultimately leading to healthier dynamics and positive change.
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It's not uncommon for one partner to be hesitant about engaging in couples therapy. If your partner is unwilling to participate, it's important to focus on what you can control. Individual therapy can be a beneficial first step, allowing you to explore your feelings, gain clarity on your desires for the relationship, and develop strategies for communication and understanding. In individual sessions, we can work on improving your personal well-being and preparing for potential discussions with your partner about the benefits of therapy.
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I consider myself to be direct, bold, and challenging—qualities that foster real growth and transformation. I embrace difficult conversations and encourage you and your partner to confront issues head-on, as this is often where the most meaningful insights arise. My approach creates a judgment-free environment where you can express yourself openly and honestly. I will provide you with valuable input and guidance to help you navigate the challenges you face in your relationship. I’m committed to helping you reduce negative beliefs and empowering you to take actionable steps toward change. This blend of support and directness creates a dynamic that allows you to move forward with confidence and clarity.
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To begin, we will schedule an initial session where you and your partner can discuss your unique challenges and outline what you hope to achieve through couples therapy. I recommend committing to regular weekly sessions, as this will help us build a strong rapport and maintain consistency, ensuring you both feel supported while navigating the complexities of your relationship. Typically, couples benefit from weekly sessions for a few months, depending on the goals we set together. After that, we can transition to bi-monthly or monthly meetings. My goal is to equip you both with the right tools to get back on track and effectively navigate whatever challenges come your way.
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I offer both 50-minute and 75-minute sessions to cater to the specific needs of each couple. The length of therapy itself can vary depending on your unique circumstances, the issues you wish to address, and how you both feel about the progress being made. We will collectively decide what is best for you. Ultimately, my goal is to provide a healing space that meets your needs and helps you achieve your relationship goals effectively.